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Life and motherhood: Two real stories from two real women. Very interesting, in my opinion.
Tell me what you think.
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Two young women live at the same time and are the same age. Both are being pressured by society and surroundings that it’s time for them to marry and start a family. Both are introduced to young men by friends in hopes the magic would “click”.
Woman A is a successful, educated, thriving professional. Maybe she is a year or two “behind”, per societal marital norms, but she is a social butterfly and the thought of being left alone never even crossed her mind. She is happy where she is and the attention is plenty.
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Woman B was taught that education has a lesser value, and marriage and kids is where it’s all at. She studied some, but quickly re-focused her energy in finding the “right match”. Unfortunately, life would have it that “right matches” weren’t coming along, so, desperate for a solution ( as the time continued to pass) she married the first guy who extended the offer.
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Fast-forward many years ahead.
Both women had and raised children.
Except there is a big difference.
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Women A devoted her life equally to both: the job she loved and the family she raised. She instilled in her kids that they should fly as high as they see fit, encouraged to brave the unknown and was there to help. She let her kids go, never expecting anything of them but to be happy. As kids grew into adults, they started to try to give everything and more back to their mother, making up for sacrifices a woman A  had to make in life while raising them.
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Women B spent her years crafting the family she imagined would be “the proper & perfect” family, even if that meant that kids were often forced to live two different lives, as her compromise with them was such that AT HOME they followed certain way of living, but outside of a home/ after a certain age they could do whatever they wanted.
As kids grew, she continued to instill the importance of them listening to her and living “the right way, as the mother teaches”. She has done all she could to ensure that all kids stay as close as possible to her.⤵️
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Life and motherhood: Two real stories from two real women. Very interesting, in my opinion. Tell me what you think. . Two young women live at the same time and are the same age. Both are being pressured by society and surroundings that it’s time for

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LOVE reading your responses on a previous post, and want to expand a little on three most frequently repeated comments:
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 “wow! 7 kids! You are a superwoman, I can’t get anything done with my 1 (2/3...)! Feel like a failure now”
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First of all, every woman is a superwoman. Regardless is she is has kids or not, I firmly believe that any woman is a mother to someone in some way.
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Second, i don’t get EVERYTHING done. I get done that which is important to me, and figuring out how to prioritize and what is important came with experience and a few bumps that I acquired along the way.
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And third, last thing ANY of you should feel is failure. It’s ridiculously hard to live. The fact you are alive and, obviously, managed to have a good enough day to be reading these words is a success already. As far as kids - I don’t think a number of kids (or having kids at all!) defines success. To me, it turned out to be my path, although if you are a long-term follower, you know I never saw myself as a mom of many kids at the start of my life.
Let’s just  each other. We can all use more of that! .
 “you must have nerves of steel to have 7 kids!”
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Personally, I think one needs nerves of steel to deal with adults  I don’t get worked up by kids, I rest with them 🤗
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 “how do keep in shape? It must be genetics”
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Guys, I think we all wish we had genetics to eat cookies and look fab 🤗 I wish too!
For me, it’s daily diet and lifestyle that make a difference, but I am not perfect. Over the years those two made the biggest impact on my health and well-being.
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Are you into health-wellness-well-being?
Should we talk more about it here?
#health #wellbeing #family #familyovereverything #life
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LOVE reading your responses on a previous post, and want to expand a little on three most frequently repeated comments: . “wow! 7 kids! You are a superwoman, I can’t get anything done with my 1 (2/3...)! Feel like a failure now” . First of all, ever

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When you come back to IG after being sick, realize your video landed in top hashtag and your IG family crowd has grown by “just” a few more thousands of people .
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Hi, everyone! And a warmest WELCOME!
There are a lot of topics that we talk about here, from fun finds, all things baby, kids and motherhood, to health, wellness, beauty and fashion ( what woman doesn’t love a good new find, right?!) to relationships and, probably, most requested, work-family balance.
I’m a full-on working woman-entrepreneur who is also a mom ( of 7, but let me tell you, being a mom of 1 was a million times harder)
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I’m curious, whether a newcomer or an oldie, what caught your eye and why are you here?
What is interesting for you to read and what do you like to talk about the most?
For oldies - how would you describe me and LivingNotes? If a new person was looking at it for the first time, what would you want them to know?
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If you feel like it, I would love to know more about you! Where are you from? What do you like? What is one fun thing no one knows about you?
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PS: in stories I have a #10yearchallenge before and after  WHO would have known!
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РУССКИЙ ⤵️
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#family #familyovereverything #citykids #baby #funfacts @7amenfant @stokkebaby
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When you come back to IG after being sick, realize your video landed in top hashtag and your IG family crowd has grown by “just” a few more thousands of people . . Hi, everyone! And a warmest WELCOME! There are a lot of topics that we talk about here

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About last night.
Make up off, hair up, kids in beds, drinks POURED!
@TruMoo just released a new chocolate milk for adults, it’s absolutely delicious, and I do not feel bad about having a late-night treat whatsoever because it’s packed with vitamins and nutrition. This is the best of both worlds for me!
And... this glass of deliciousness to supplement much needed parental R&R won’t leave you with a hangover the morning after. Triple bonus, right?!
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Go see stories for a little more nutrition info and details on where to find it in stores. Isn’t this new addition so good?!
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PS: Justin tried doing some party-worthy drink mixes with it, and I tried making some frozen dessert options, too.
Do you want me to share recipes for those?
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#partner #trumooafterdark #trumoo #health #nutrition
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About last night. Make up off, hair up, kids in beds, drinks POURED! @trumoo just released a new chocolate milk for adults, it’s absolutely delicious, and I do not feel bad about having a late-night treat whatsoever because it’s packed with vitamins

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So, the opinions on the last post split in a million ways.
A lot of judgement. A lot.
Surprisingly. (to me).
I want to highlight that none of the questions asked “who is to blame?”. The questions I asked were “what do you think?”, “who is at fault?”, if anyone, with an intention of analyzing the situation that we ALL can learn something from and apply to our lives to avoid our own slip-ups in the future. Learning through someone else’s mistakes is the best way of learning, always have been, always will be. But it is only possible if the judgement is not present. No need to judge. I am sure every one of us has a million things others can judge us for.
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My and my husband’s opinions are similar with slight differences.
All and all, I think that we, as parents, are always responsible for the outcomes of our children’s lives. 100%.
First and foremost, our responsibility as parents is not to set kids on the path WE think is best, but to help our children find themselves and then to concentrate on providing them with all tools possible for success.
To all those who judged the man for “not having his own head”, think again. The fact that he had listened to his parents is an honorable thing of respect, something we ALL would want our kids to have. The issue with this situation is that the parents have abused that quality, they shouldn’t have insisted.
The outcome here, in my opinion,  is 100% parents’ fault, but the problem is, the man and HIS family are the ones who have to deal with it now, which brings me back to the point I always say: we ALL need to take responsibility for our actions. Think a million times before we do or say something, as the effects can, sometimes, be irreversible and damaging. The core is not in being fearful of saying or doing something, but in being conscious, aware and responsible for all we do. No need to worry about being too perfect - we never will be, we are human, but we can be better humans if we try.
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There were lots of seemingly easy suggestions of how to fix the situation that, in reality, are not that easy to executed. Do you want to break this topic down a little more in a different post?
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#family #familyovereverything #life
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So, the opinions on the last post split in a million ways. A lot of judgement. A lot. Surprisingly. (to me). I want to highlight that none of the questions asked “who is to blame?”. The questions I asked were “what do you think?”, “who is at fault?”,

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Parenting: where does the responsibility end?
I want to share an interesting situation with my reader’s permission,
I want to know what you think:
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A family has three kids. They have a very certain, rigid way of doing things. The oldest son views the world quite different.
The parents are unwavering: it’s their way or no way, so when the first opportunity comes he flies out of the nest and tries to build his own life. He struggles but succeeds, meets his wife(who the family doesn’t particularly like), they start a family, and... just like everyone else, they start to face life with its own challenges.
The moment those challenges come, though, the man’s family starts to rub in that ALL his/their problems are because of the CHOICES HE MADE, and the sooner he drops his “stupid ideas” the sooner his life will become calm and normal.
So, the guy bends to the pressure, drops his dream path and starts a “stable, normal” way of living.
Fast-forward 12 years.
Things did not turn out to be as rosy as the parents predicted to the guy. The stable path ended up being quite shaky, he lost the job and struggled with finding a different employment. The family dragged across country to the middle of nowhere for a position that wasn’t truly worth it, neither financially nor as a personal fulfillment.
It has taken a huge toll on the family, as kids took moving really hard, the wife hated the new place too, and the man was not happy with any of it either yet there wasn’t really a choice.
The situation also created a lot of resentment and bitterness between him and his parents. He thinks that it’s their fault for not supporting his ambition and his fault for bending to their wish. They think EVERYTHING bad that is happening in his life is 100% his fault because HE didn’t listen to them right away, so... they kind of stepped away and told him to deal with his own issues, because ... he has created them.🤗
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What do you think? Who is at fault here?
What patents’ responsibilities were and are here?
And what would you suggest to this family? The wife is a reader. Anything you can say will be much appreciated.️
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PS: I’ll share my view too.
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#family #familyovereverything #parenting
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Parenting: where does the responsibility end? I want to share an interesting situation with my reader’s permission, I want to know what you think: . A family has three kids. They have a very certain, rigid way of doing things. The oldest son views th

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@leannebarlow What a BEAUTIFUL picture! So interested to know everyone’s take on this!

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From Q&A in stories: “How do you work when you go somewhere ( museum, etc) with ALL your kids without your husband?” I want to post a more complete answer here.
 1. Planning and common sense.
I said a million times, I plan out everything I possibly can, including free time, but if I am having a killer busy day at work, there is zero reason to go party at that very moment. Entertainment can wait a day or two, don’t you think? Common sense 🤗
 2. I plan in advance when and what we are doing, so I can schedule and take care of work in accordingly prior to leaving.
While, yes, I am always reachable, when I am with kids, I want to be PRESENT and BE with them 100%.
I will know if there is something urgent. Everything else is planned for a different time.
 3. When ALL children go together, it’s infinitely easier than having just small kids with me. A 15 year old won’t throw a tantrum, 7 year old can engage a 5 year old in something fun, and a 3 year old is much more likely to respond to a 5 year old than to an adult. Small age gaps are helpful. I highly recommend understanding Montessori principles of communication - it’s a very helpful skill.
 4. I get an impression that many envision me as this wild woman ALWAYS surrounded by 7 unmanageable kids.
“7 unmanageable kids” are covered by a point 3.
As far as other things - do you remember yourself at 15? 13? 10-11? Did you feel like ALWAYS hanging out with your mom at that age? My kids are no different 🤗
Also, between school, extra-curriculum activities and their personal lives I am often left with just Elisey to hang out with.
Kids are “yours” only for the first few years of life, which is why I always repeat: cherish the time. It flies by way to quickly.
 5. Living in the city saves a lot of time. City infrastructure is essential for me.
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Does this give you some more clarity? What else can I answer here?
PS: Elisey shorts + high socks look is to die for, right?
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#motherhood #family #familyovereverything #citykids #kidstyle
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From Q&A in stories: “How do you work when you go somewhere ( museum, etc) with ALL your kids without your husband?” I want to post a more complete answer here. 1. Planning and common sense. I said a million times, I plan out everything I possibly c

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How our 2019 started
Late to the game, but HAPPY NEW YEAR!
2018 has been nothing I expected it to be, but, as I look back, everything that happened forced me to grow 10x more and 100x faster than I’d ever choose myself.
It also made me re-evaluate everything in life and re-align my views and priorities with what I truly believe in, which is a good thing, too. .
I have lots of goals and dreams for this year, both, personal and professional.
I’m so excited to officially launch two new sections for LN this month (and a bunch more new things throughout the year), and it feels so good to finally take full control of the brand and steer it again in the direction we always felt it needed to go in!
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Personally, I’m focusing on a million things too, with health and wholesome wellness ( from physical to emotional to you-name-it) being the top of the list.
Stress and intensity of the last year threw me off my balance beam a little, so I’ll be documenting and sharing a lot of things I do to that help me to stay balanced. All of you who’ve been asking to cover this topic for a long time - this is the year!🤗
I’m really excited about all of this. I started to make changes a few month ago, and it feels so, so, so good. Stay tuned!
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I want to wish you all the happiest year up to date! Wishing for dreams to come true, for struggles to step away, for wars around the world to end and for all of us to find the peace and happiness we all need in our lives.
Happy 2019, guys!
It will be a GREAT year!
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Do you make goals for the new year or kind of go with the flow? What are some of your resolutions (if the first)?
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#newyear #family #familyovereverything #2019 #party
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How our 2019 started Late to the game, but HAPPY NEW YEAR! 2018 has been nothing I expected it to be, but, as I look back, everything that happened forced me to grow 10x more and 100x faster than I’d ever choose myself. It also made me re-evaluate ev

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When I was a little girl, my most favorite pastime was time with my mom.
I lived for our evenings together.
I loved when she read books to me. She always picked the most interesting stories. I loved coming to work with her sometimes and sitting at the very far back desk in her classroom. You, guys, I felt SO proud that is was MY MOM out there! Teaching others!
I loved our walks home during holidays when the days were short. We would always stop by the store on the way home to look at decorations, and there was something so incredibly magical in that, I still get “fuzzies” in my stomach when go back in memories.
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She was always working, always beautiful, always an example to follow.
She pushed me to learn to be outside of my comfort zone and taught me to never settle for anything less than what I truly want. I hope I get to be half the example and half the mother she was to me.
She is my best friend. We don’t always agree, but she is the one I know is always there for me and I always can confide in.
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We took her to the airport this morning and I kissed her off to go back to the rest of the family who are overseas. I lived in US for exactly 20 years this year, but, you know, it still doesn’t get any easier to say good-byes.
I choose my path. I love it, wouldn’t want to change it.
But sometimes it’s so unbearably painful.
I wish I had a fix for that.
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#family #familyovereverything #citykids
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When I was a little girl, my most favorite pastime was time with my mom. I lived for our evenings together. I loved when she read books to me. She always picked the most interesting stories. I loved coming to work with her sometimes and sitting at th

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How about a toast for the New Year, absolutely inspired by a conversation I stumbled upon today on IG?!
A little history behind the toast:
an author shared a parable where a wife caught husband cheating. As she turned to leave, he asked her to listen to him. He then proceeded to explain, that he found what looked like a homeless young woman on a side of the road. It was raining and windy, he felt sorry for her, picked her up and brought her home with him. She was hungry, so he fed her food that he made for his wife ( but the wife didn’t eat); she didn’t have clothes, so he pulled out he jeans he bought for his wife ( but wife said they were the wrong size so she didn’t wear them) and a sweater that his sister gifted to his wife ( but wife never wore). And as he was seeing the girl out, she turned to him and asked “is there anything else your wife isn’t using that I could have?”
So... he took the girl to their bedroom where the said wife later found them in the act.
The moral of the story the author tried to emphasize (as she explained) that intimacy is important, a woman should never forget about it or marriage will fall apart.
I won’t even start on a fact how much I disagree with that explanation, but!
With 2019 a few days away, let’s toast to relationships where BOTH people take responsibility, to partners who value each other regardless of circumstances and marriages where both spouses can speak their mind freely, be understood and loved🥂
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I am curious, what do you, guys, think about this scenario above? Sure, a parable, but I am surprised how many women think in support of a man here and blame the woman for happening.
I’m definitely of a different mentality, what about you?
#marriage #family #life #familyovereverything #heforshe
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How about a toast for the New Year, absolutely inspired by a conversation I stumbled upon today on IG?! A little history behind the toast: an author shared a parable where a wife caught husband cheating. As she turned to leave, he asked her to listen

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15 years ago it seemed that everything is so important, everything must be attended to and EVERYONE needs to be pleased, from work to every relative to neighbors.
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Today, the only core focus for me are those who are immediately close to me, with myself and kids ( and their futures )/spouse topping the list.
It’s not that I don’t care about anyone else.
I care about others too. Very much so.
I simply view everything through the prism of personal well-being now, which inevitably includes my immediate loved ones too.
This may be one of the more difficult life lessons that I learned (and was vividly reminded of this year), but one of the most valuable.
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If I were to redo one thing in my life, it would be saying “no” much, much sooner in life and standing my grounds for my personal best interests.
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If you were to choose just ONE thing to do differently, what would it be?
#2019 #newyear #familyovereverything #family #goop #ralphlauren #poloralphlauren
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15 years ago it seemed that everything is so important, everything must be attended to and EVERYONE needs to be pleased, from work to every relative to neighbors. . Today, the only core focus for me are those who are immediately close to me, with mys

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As a year comes to an end, and I always subconsciously start to reflect on it.
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This year was also nothing I expected or planned for it to be. It has flown by and I am still in kind of a denial that it’s almost over.
I learned so much. This was one of the biggest ones for growth in every way.
It was also one of the most life-changing years, you know, those times when you see everything is a prospective you never thought of before.
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I will write more soon. I’m trying to catch as much time in the last few days with my mom as possible. This year, too, like none other is the year when I don’t want her to leave. It’s funny, how being a mom to 7 kids myself, I feel like I want a mom for me more than ever.
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How has this year been for you? Has it been a good one or a challenging one?
What’s your biggest takeaway?
 #ralphlauren X #goop
#style #motherhood #familyovereverything #family #newyear
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As a year comes to an end, and I always subconsciously start to reflect on it. . This year was also nothing I expected or planned for it to be. It has flown by and I am still in kind of a denial that it’s almost over. I learned so much. This was one

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@leannebarlow Love this sentiment! (and such a stunning pic of you ❤️) I love the kind of mother your are and what you stand for and I’m so happy I got to see this firsthand. Enjoy your time with your mom!